Wife Things: part one

Phil and I met when I was 18, he was 21, and were married by 20 and 23. We were madly in love and knew everything about being married. 


 Now two and a half years in I am realizing: first off I'm clueless in so many ways, but also I have learned some things in the past two years. Because most of you readers are in a similar season I am going to start a series called "Wife Things." I want to document fun things that work, don't work, and that God is teaching me about being a young wife. I would LOVE your input and to hear about the burnt kale chips and the laundromat creeps. 

Okay. First Wife Things post.
here we go...

Fluff off all those baby naggers! "When are you two going to finally have some kids."
oh. None of your business. Bye. 
Can you relate?!

Counsel is always a good idea. Preferably professional. Also mentors and seminars. 
I was a communication major and psych minor and Phil is studying to be a counselor as well. So we are suckers for communication seminars and counseling to become stronger as individuals and as a team.  "Does this mean you are broken people?" Yes. Yes we are all broken people, thats the beauty: no one is better than getting counseling! Everyone can benefit from mentorship and growing!!! YAY!
ok, a bit too excited? I'll tone it down. 

Slowing down. Six jobs and two people is too much work. I mean really. Work is like an addiction for me. I love to work!! But... I have learned very recently is that time together is so important. And we can't have time together if I say yes to everything but Phil. Saying yes to something always takes away from something else. This is true 100% of the time. That has made me really think about what is worth my time away and what simply isn't. 

I really would love to hear some input from all you young wives about managing school, work, establishing a career, eating healthy, becoming a mom, trying to dress cute when you committed to a budget, or even being single and people posting all the time about being a wife and you're pretty sick of it. (sorry). Enjoy those late girls nights till 2am without someone sending out a search warrant for their missing wife. 

Have a lovely one ladies. 


Health and Peace of Heart

Health is SO important to me. I eat organic, take supplements, stay active. But not until recently did I see that God too cares about the state of our body, first from the place of our hearts. It's a ripple effect! And it about slapped me across the face:
"A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones."
(pv 14:30)

Peace in your heart literally leads to a healthy body (NLT). Ladies, lets be thankful for one another instead of secretly jealous or bitter inside! It will bring life and abundance and allow us to love so many more people. 

Have a good Tuesday all!


Welcome, October

"A woman in harmony with her spirit is like a river flowing. She goes where she will without pretense and arrives at her destination prepared to be herself and only herself." Maya Angelou

Found that quote tonight and was quite moved at the honesty Maya speaks. In my last post I explained that this year has been difficult. Although difficult, I want to elaborate on the fact that there is so much beauty in overcoming and growing. Until this year I was honestly unaware of the hurt I have carried with me, and because of that, could not know who I truly was. I had a vision of the person I wanted to be but was really, REALLY struggling to attain my list of goals. Harmony with my spirit is the best way to describe this fall. I am so thankful for the clear vision this past month has given me and I am looking into the fall with hope of freshness. I am ending September listening to Sam Smith on repeat and thanking God for my wonderful husband, new opportunities, amazing community, and just dreaming up what God has in store for this beautiful life as I become more one with myself.

phew. heavy enough!? I promise I am not all serious and thoughts. I just really believe transparency keeps the tide a-rolling into healing.

In other news here are a few fun things to lighten the mood:
/ I've been listening to WAY too much Ariana Grande this month.
/ My friend Angela Houska took that fun photo up there. She is such a genuine soul.
/ I am giving up coffee shops and eating out frivolously in October. Wish me luck!
/ I started working with my friend Jess who owns FrolicVintage.com. It's been so fun. My official title is "Creative Media Manager."
/ My husband and I own Bindlund as well.
/ I love to dance very odd. (SEE HERE) If you know me and haven't witnessed this, you probably don't actually know me.
/ I am reading Dreaming with God and it is rocking my world.
/ My ultimate goal in the next 5 years is to become an established life coach with an emphasis in holistic wellness. For life coach inspo check out Melissa Ambrosini,  Rachel Macdonald (inspacesbetween), and Saffron and Sage.
/ My favorite instagrammer right now is @herwelshness. You can't follow her and not be encouraged!

Happy October lovelies. I hope you are as hopeful as I am.



And just like that it is fall again.
It seems like last week I was making my new year's resolutions and declaring this to be a year of freedom. For the sake of this blog and being a discouragement to others I never wanted to open up and share about this past year.
But. 2014. You were a cold hearted biotch. Freedom never felt so far.

My faith wavered and my endurance was wearing thin. But the grace of my Jesus and the love of my Father never left me. Even when it felt like he did. Freedom sometimes comes through a season of being ripped wide open and healed by the ultimate healer. Scars from superficial healing leave nasty marks. They can be seen in our demeanor, in the ugly words we say, and in the subtle bitter looks we give to ourselves as we look in the mirror. When our scars are healed by mortal hands they are big and can sometimes leave others with scars as well. The healing I am stepping into this year requires a lot of trust and confidence that if I let these wounds come open, that the merciful hand of Jesus will leave me with more grace and love and freedom than I could have imagined before I surrendered.

This fall I have stepped into a season if surrender. Surrender to the cold changes that I know will produce a beautiful spring.  I hope this honesty is okay with you. I would never want to put out something that produces negativity, but this is honest. We all start somewhere and healing begins when we step in.

Thanks for allowing me to share.